Here we go again, another woman, another mental health professional, another mom talking about self-care. I know, I need to take time away for myself. I get that. You were likely debating on whether you were going to even consider reading another article about self-care. Maybe you were hoping for another post about how to schedule self-care into your life. Well, sadly, you will be disappointed then. I firmly believe that self-care is more than bubble baths, more than a glass of wine, more than just simply reading a book. Self-care is a journey. It is the ability to have personal reflection on your life, to know what your worldview is and to be able to stand strong for your worldview. Oftentimes, we think of self-care as just that little bit of time to get away, to have peace and quiet, go get pedicures, a nice night out with the girls or guys. These are nice things, important things. I'm not saying that's the aforementioned activities are not important, but we must keep in mind that self-care is more than just the surface layer things. Self-care is personal reflection time. We must ask ourselves, are we using our time to evaluate where our life is and where we wanted it to go? Are we being honest with ourselves about how our mental health, spiritual health, or physical health is fairing? Are we making goals to change our lives? Are we connecting with something beyond ourselves so that way we can remain motivated? Self-care is making sure that you remain a whole person as you give pieces of yourself away on a daily basis.
As parents we are busy, often getting bogged down with taking care of our children, taking care of our house, taking care of our jobs, taking care of our spouses and we often forget who we are in the circle of life. When you think of self-care, try to ask yourself, “is this filling up my cup?” because self-care is taking time to truly make sure you are a whole, healthy person. I'm not saying that I want you to get consumed with goals and lists of things that you want to achieve, but we must be honest with ourselves and remember to reach out when we need help. Again, we should get those pedicures and have those nights out with friends, but we must also ask ourselves “who am I?” and “can I defend who I am if I need to?” Remember, your time is worth more than we are told by society and self-care is taking that time to remind yourself that “yes, my time is worth something truly invaluable”.