I will make this a regular part of my Bibliotherapy series because I think that it is pertinent information. Hoopla is a free app that you can download on a mobile device and perhaps on some computers, depending of what version you have of Window or Mac. I am familiar with using it on my phone because I always have it with me and can read or listen to books if I am on the go or waiting at one of the various appointments we have in our family. Hoopla connects to your local library and you can check books, movies as well as television series and other goodies for free. You have a set amount of time that you can read, listen or watch the items on your mobile device until they are returned. I think it is such a great option to not only utilize one’s local library, but to take advantage of what our mobile devices can do for us in a positive manner.
So, I mentioned a while ago that I wanted to review books that could be useful for not only personal use, but that would work great for a therapeutic method psychotherapist/counselor call Bibliotherapy. This is when we give a client a book and suggest that they read all or portion of the book because it would be beneficial to their mental, emotional, physical or spiritual needs. I feel that this is not only important for the everyday reader, but I would like to give myself and clients an idea of why I recommend a book to read. I want to provide information that is useful to therapist and the average individual on why mental is not only important, but what reading can be truly helpful.
Song of Songs 1:1-7 New International Version (NIV)
Today, I'm going to be talking about the book “Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage” by Dr. Kevin Leman. I can say that I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I thought it was informative, not only in regard to a sexual relationship within a marriage but a sexual relationship within a marriage from a Christian point of view. The interesting thing about this book, and what I would definitely use in counseling, is that it does break different sexual related topics. Dr. Leman covers not only how to Garner sexual intimacy, but he covers orgasms for women and what men look for in sexual relationship. Dr. Leman also covers intimacy topics, including women look for in a sexual relationship, sex’s greatest enemy and how to avoid pitfalls in a marriage regarding the sexual relationships. He talks about male and female sexual dysfunctions and he doesn't shy away from giving advice about how to work through sexual dysfunctions.
Dr. Leman also covers sexual pleasure in a married in an open and honest dialogue, giving Christians permission to be intimate with each other and to enjoy that intimacy. I would recommend this book to secular clients because it does break down a lot of information that is useful regarding the aforementioned sexual dysfunctions. For couples, I would recommend they read the book together. I would, if needed, break down certain chapters to fit a specific need or issue, but I think the book as a whole could be really useful in your marriage. There is a useful question and answer section that can be useful in gaining additional information about couples during therapy. If not in therapy, it would be a great place to start for couples who feel that they are not connecting sexually. “Sheet Music” does well to take the pressure off of the expectations when it comes to sex, marriage as well as maintains Christian values. The information in the book allows you to learn what the freedom of sex in a marriage looks like.
Lastly, Dr. Leman also talks about sexual intimacy in a premarital setting, covering sexual intimacy from virginity standpoint and though one may not be a virgin, Dr. Leman doesn't talk down to people or shame them. This is really great especially seeing as how it does have that Christian element woven into the prose. The church has treated sex as a taboo topic, which I believe makes this book a must for couples. God did not just design sexual relationships for making children, but to also gives his beautiful creations another way to express their love for one another.
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